“When our hatred is violent, it sinks us even beneath those we hate. “

— Francois de la Rochefoucauld

This political season can become a teaching tool for parents. The campaigns were vitriolic, loud, rude, underhanded, and hateful. These are not good role models.

However, the election is over, and the decisions have been made. Our nation has survived as long as it has because of our history of the peaceful transfer of political power. The operative word here being peaceful.

It doesn’t matter if the president-elect is not your choice or mine. What matters is that our system works.

We have a system of checks and balances built into our political hierarchy. The executive branch is balanced by the legislative branch, and the judicial branch is the tie-breaker. At least that’s my off-the-cuff definition.

Changes are made by common, or at least majority, consent.

The non-winning candidate asked her supporters to give the winning candidate an open mind and an opportunity to serve. (Not a direct quote, but close.) Actually, I believe she said “we owe him…”

Those who demonstrate differently are not only showing disrespect to the winning candidate but to their own candidate as well.

We teach sports in school to get our young people accustomed to winning and losing graciously. (At least that’s the reason I’ve heard from every coach/teacher that I’ve worked with.) That attitude should carry over into all walks of life.

In this life, not everything is going to turn out the way you want or expect.

It’s time to get over it and get on with the business of living well. Hatred is too heavy a burden to carry.  We need to teach our children forgiveness, tolerance, moving on.


Watch Carefully

America’s future will be determined by the home and the school. The child becomes largely what he is taught; hence we must watch what we teach, and how we live.
~~ Jane Addams
Teaching is a fine art that requires multiple years in advanced training to do successfully. At least that is what the educational establishment would have you think. Teachers are encouraged to study and take more classes and acquire advanced degrees. All of which can give you information, but which cannot teach you the fine art of teaching.
Jane Addams quote gives us the answer in the last part. “Watch what we teach and how we live.”
The “how we live” part of this is the most essential. Our children watch what we do and imitate us. They take on our characteristics simply by observation and imitation.
If you want your child to be industrious, let him see you working and encourage him to help you along.
If you want your child to be sympathetic to others, let him see you as you empathize with others.
My sainted grandmother used to say “Your actions speak so loudly that I can’t hear what you are saying.”
Our best teaching is done by modeling the behavior we wish to instill in our children.